A colleague of mine recommended I read this book, “The Four Agreements”. I’m not much of a reader, so I was hesitant. Then, I saw how small and affordable the book was, so I bought it. I sat down one evening, and read the whole thing front to back (Woo Hoo!).
As I started to read, I was skeptical. Then, it got really good. The book offered four “agreements” or rules to abide by. I loved every agreement and thought each of them were extremely helpful. I encourage all of you to read the book but I wanted to give you the cliff’s notes.
Agreement #1: Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using your word to speak ill of yourself or others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. Makes me think of the old saying, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Words are so powerful. Use them wisely and kindly. Think before you speak.
Agreement #2: Don’t take anything personally.
My favorite agreement. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions, words and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. This goes for both positive and negative words. Don’t take it personally. Everyone has an opinion…..and a…..
Agreement #3: Don’t make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Be brave. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.
Agreement #4: Always do your best.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment and that’s OK. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. This is something I was taught at an early age and hold close to my heart. Always do your best. Serve others. Serve your self.
Don Miguel Ruiz, I thank you and look forward to reading your other books.